One of the most important things of your immigration journey is taking care or fostering your relationship and doing what you can to manage the stress of your immigration journey.
I know that’s easier said than done. I’m not a medical professional. I’m not a therapist but I am a human being and someone who has gone through an immigration process with my spouse.
Everybody on our team has gone through an immigration process either individually or with their spouse. We know how stressful it is. We know waiting is the hardest part and it’s extremely overwhelming.
Our Facebook group is great because the couples in our group have been able to share their successes and some of the stressors that they are undergoing and really support one another. I want to give you a few tips from personal experience and also from working with hundreds of clients about how to take care of yourself, take care of your relationship, and manage your stress as best you can.
What I have found working with hundreds of couples is that sometimes the immigration case becomes all-consuming and you just focus on it. I know why; it’s a huge part of your life and you basically feel in limbo until you can complete the case. But it becomes almost like this third person or third entity that’s part of your relationship and you become obsessed with it, checking it, and always talking about it.
From my personal experience, having gone through an immigration process, one of the things that me and my husband found to be very helpful is to talk about our future. Talk about things in the future and not focus on the immigration case exclusively.
It’s really hard if you’re living apart but we love how the couples in our Facebook group tell stories about how they talk on the phone all day in Zoom and Skype with their partner. Just so you can feel present with each other as much as possible. If you’re able to visit, that’s great.
But also take care of yourself and try to find other ways to relieve stress. Go on walks, call up an old friend or be on the phone or Skype with your significant other. Again, I just thought that a few tips from personal experience and what we’ve seen with clients I really wanted to share that and hopefully some of those tips help you to focus on your relationship and take care of yourself because at the end of the day that’s really what’s most important.