How to Prove Your Relationship When Living Apart

Life sometimes takes couples down unexpected paths. For many, love and career don’t always move at the same pace. Imagine two newlyweds both pursuing their medical residencies in different States. They cherish each other deeply, but their demanding schedules and professional dreams keep them apart for now. For couples like this, the question often arises: Can we still move forward with our marriage green card if we’re not living together?

 

Understanding Immigration’s Expectations

During the marriage-based adjustment of status process, U.S. immigration officials look for signs that the relationship is real and based on love, not convenience. Their default assumption is that married couples live together, share finances, and have daily lives intertwined. They often expect to see a joint lease or mortgage, shared bank accounts, and bills paid from the same account. While that’s the standard scenario, it’s not the only one that proves a marriage is genuine.

For many couples, especially those in demanding careers or academic programs, living apart temporarily is necessary. Immigration officers may ask questions about this arrangement, but living in separate states is not a reason for automatic denial. What matters most is having a clear and logical explanation for why the couple is apart. Evidence such as work contracts, school enrollment letters, and communication records can help show that the distance is due to legitimate reasons, not a lack of commitment.

How to Explain and Document Your Situation

When living separately, couples should carefully prepare a letter explaining why they are apart and when they plan to live together. It’s helpful to outline future plans, such as after graduation or once a residency is complete, and provide proof that both spouses are working toward the same goal. Photos, travel itineraries, text messages, and visits can all demonstrate an ongoing, loving relationship.

Immigration officers want to understand that the separation is temporary. Including evidence of future plans, like a signed lease starting at a future date or communications about moving, shows intent to share a home. Couples can also include joint financial documents, insurance policies, or beneficiary designations to show ongoing unity, even when apart.

Why Professional Guidance Matters

Navigating a marriage-based green card case can be overwhelming, especially when your situation doesn’t fit the traditional mold. An experienced immigration attorney can help you organize your evidence, prepare your explanation, and anticipate any questions from immigration. Working with a supportive team makes the process smoother and far less stressful.

If you and your spouse are facing this challenge, you don’t have to go through it alone. Compassionate, experienced guidance can make all the difference. Schedule your consultation today with Attorney Pastrana to build a strong case and take the next step in your journey together.

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